For Men

If pregnancy wasn’t part of your plans, it’s natural to feel like your voice doesn’t matter in what happens next. Because women are often at the center of these conversations, men can sometimes feel overlooked. But your perspective is important, and you play a real role in this situation. After all, pregnancy impacts men too.

Is She Pregnant?
If your partner is—or might be—pregnant, it’s normal to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and unsure about what comes next. You may find yourself asking questions like:

  • Do I need to be involved?
  • Does my opinion really matter?
  • What should I do now?
  • Am I ready to be a father?

When pregnancy wasn’t part of the plan, it can seem like you don’t have a voice in the decisions ahead. While the focus often falls on women—and that makes sense in many ways—that doesn’t mean your thoughts and feelings don’t count. The truth is, pregnancy affects men too, and your role is important.


Your Support Matters

Most women look to their partners first when facing an unexpected pregnancy. Chances are, she needs you now more than ever. Even though you may be feeling just as uncertain, standing by her will mean the world. A simple way to start is by joining her for the pregnancy test and limited ultrasound—both offered at no-cost at Northfield Women's Center. Going together can ease the stress for both of you.


Share Your Voice - but the decision is ultimately hers

One of the most valuable things you can do is share what’s on your mind and listen to hers. If you have an opinion about the pregnancy or whether you want to be involved, let her know. Open, honest communication can help both of you feel heard and guide you as you navigate the next steps together. However, while it is very important for you to express what you think and how you are feeling, it is legally her decision to choose which option she wants for the pregnancy. You cannot force her into a decision.


It Won’t Always Be Easy

Telling family and friends or making decisions about the future can feel overwhelming. Outside opinions may add pressure, but walking through it side by side will make a hard season easier. Supporting one another is the key.


Consider the options together

There are three options you have when faced with an unexpected pregnancy:  abortion, adoption, and parenting. It is vital to consider each of those possibilities and how they would look for both of you and your situation. This way, you know you’re choosing the best option for you both rather than a choice based on urgency or fear.


Have Questions?

This is not something the two of you have to go through alone. The caring team at Northfield Women’s Center can help you understand your options, connect you with available resources, and provide you with no-cost services to confirm her pregnancy. Request an appointment with us today!

Northfield Women's Center does not provide or refer for abortion services, the abortion pill, emergency contraception, or birth control.